Small habits that can change your life goals.

 

Today I decided to share with you some habits that I have adopted not too long ago and that have considerably changed my outlook on life. These behavioral changes might have crossed your mind from time to time. You may even have adopted them on the short term, however have you tried on implementing them on the long run?

Well I have and for some time now I have been feeling at ease. Not only because I am religiously abiding by them, nope. But because with it came a sense of peace and acceptance of who I am and where my life is leading me. Such changes led me to re-inspect my life and the person that I am becoming irrelevant of my surroundings’ approval or not. One word of advice; we are the generation that is always blooming compared to our parents’ generation. Hence we should not let past generations keep us from going further.

Now to the subject matter in hand, the following is for you;

Less social media when you are out socially . Focus on the present and not past and future digital content on your phone.

Read Everyday . I am old fashioned and I love reading books. So should you. Reading expands the mind and enriches your vocabulary. Try it. And no, articles on some shady websites are not considered reading material.

Make your health a priority . By eating healthy and working out daily. The world (pollution) has changed and we no longer have the strong immune system our grandparents bragged about. Make time for your health.

Learn from people you admire . And that I say literally. When you are with the person you admire, pay close attention to his/her body language, communication skills and get motivated by that person’s positive push and accomplishments. If he/she succeeded, why can’t you?

Plan your day the night before . What works for me is writing down on a piece of paper next day’s tasks. Ticking them off one by one along the day motivates me to further end the day with everything I set my mind, to be done.

Take action, even when it’s scary . Nothing is scary in life. Being scared is a state of mind. Have faith in your self and bare in mind that you need to work a lot to make it happen in this world.

It is okay to be introvert . You don’t need to always be out there surrounded with people to make a statement. Sometimes it is okay to shy away from your friends. I happen to have a lot of those me, myself and I times and I quite honestly love them. These are the moments that are productive for your inner peaceful self.

Invest your time in the arts . Art, music, dance soothes the eye, the mind and the body. Try once in a while listening to an old record, going to an art exhibit or take some steps with the melody on the record player. Let me know what state of mind you will be afterwards.

You are your number one priority . Not your family nor your friends. You are. Never forget that.

We are already in March within the new year. Last year passed far too quickly. I vouched not to let 2017 pass quicker without putting myself on my top priority list. This behavioral decision might come as a shock to some people who always relied on my compassion and patience. This time round however, my adopted habits are staying on the long run and as an arabic saying goes “eza mich 3ajebkon, balto el ba7er” .

Thank you!

New Year’s Resolution (crap!)

2014

I wish you all had an amazing night out/in on that special (whatever) last night of 2013. For the first time I decided that I was going to spend NYE with my family, especially my dad. Yeah I know, first time do not roll your eyes, I have never been fond of celebrating NY especially that I consider it to be a normal night out with friends, except that alcohol consumption reaches an infinite level and all of a sudden everyone is super friendly and nice, leaving aside hypocrisy and boredom/superiority towards one another. The night went by smoothly and i reached my satisfaction when i saw the smile and happiness on my father’s face all night long and even the day after. I was fulfilled and at peace!

Of course the 1st of January should not be considered as being the first day of the new year since everyone is still in a daze and a hangover state of mind. For me the new year started today and as I have been reading lots of peoples’ statuses and some entries on blogpost/tumbler on NYE resolutions, I got inspired into sharing mine and few of my impressions on the topic.

Do take into consideration that being a sarcastic person, the following will be a straight forward message and whomever is not in accordance with it can go and screw himself over (Thank you!).

1- Start of a healthier lifestyle:

Why do people wait for a new year to go and subscribe to the gym? Change their food intake and promise to decrease their alcohol consumption? First of all there is no perfect date to start going to the gym, or doing some stretching at home or a run by the seaside. To my knowledge, only lazy people mark down a date so as to unconsciously satisfy themselves when they do actually start this transformation (and trust me it only takes a few weeks for the excitement to vanish and get back to the bad habits!). You want to have a healthier and active lifestyle, start on the spot. Stop pondering the issue, its not that hard to move your lazy fat ass and take a run or go for an hour to the gym three times a week.

2- Start of THE diet

As for a change in your diet, well let me tell you something, you do not need to ban the fries and burgers for some salad and a protein extreme diet, promising the banishment of fast foods from your entire life (yeah some people take their new year resolution to the extreme!!). I believe that everyone should abide by a life long diet plan and eat healthy, taking into consideration that cholesterol and trygliceride levels will always be present in your life for check up! Do not forget to binge from time to time.

3- No more Alcohol

Alcohol consumption is fun! Yes when you are taking into consideration to stop drinking it you are still in the aftermath of the NYE and need two days to get yourself back on track. For those who can not tolerate alcohol, drink moderately and those who are hardcore just stay the way you are as long as you are not disturbing anyone and most importantly having fun! It is most funny to see those who swear not to touch vodka anymore to be gulping a drink a weekend later!

4- Get yourself into a nice relationship and set goals.

Love, relationships and engagements/marriages can not be set as a NYE resolution for the sole purpose that it is not in our control to decide what might happen in the future. Of course we all wish for that special one to come and sweep us off our feet yet we can not make a plan and guide him (with a deadline in our head) to implement it. If it is meant to happen, it will happen. And if it did not happen this year then it is not the end of the world; forget what your surrounding tells you and just go with the flow. Failure in having a nice “lovely” relationship is caused primarily from peer pressure and extreme expectations.

5- Career change prospects.

And I encourage you all to do that if you have not been satisfied with your job for the last few years or so. I mean seriously what have you been waiting for? Start now because as we all know it takes time for someone to find the job he likes (the interviews, the waiting, the call back and the result). We do not want to re-read on NYE 2014 the same resolution now, do we?

6- World Peace.

Grow up please! World peace nor agreement is going to be achieved in a year especially if the cause that has been fought and is still on-going for the past 60 years (or less). I mean we all wish for the blood shedding to end and in our case the nearby battles (and within the country) to end, however this is politics ; the game is far bigger than all of our wishes and amateur analysis.

7- Surround yourself with genuine friends.

I must agree with this one. As i have made new relations and friends throughout 2013, i noticed that the best genuine ones are those who have stuck with you a life time (or more than 5 years). The other add-ups (as I am labeling them now) did not meet your expectations and are kind of a burden to handle. Then I say no need to add up people in your life. I have always said the quality overcomes the quantity…

I know there are many other resolution that have been published and wished upon and I am sure that lot of them are wishful thinking. The most important thing is to just wake up (with a slap). Resolutions are made and most of them are broken within a month. You want to change, and add value to your life then just go for it and do something about it without invading everyones’ feed and page. Trust me the less you share, the more you will accomplish.

and on that note Happy New Year!!!

Cheers xoxo

Lebanon ;Outbound

And they all ask me; why this fixation with London? and i briefly answer them back it is not as much as what London,as a city is to me, but what it represents, and what Lebanon and its compadres will never be.

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We have witnessed a boom in our society. Within the last decade i can say that people started to become open to western ideas and values, embracing them indeed, however this openness, which we are so proud of, does not come close to western standards. I say if you want to become open minded and live your life like europeans and americans, please do so but fully, not hypocritically depending on which situation suits your ego. Traveling, so as to explore new countries and interacting with the locals abroad, has been to everyone’s reach. Whenever one is bored and fed up from the chaotic routine life in the city, the airport is not far away and hop he is out of here.

Now enough with the introductions and let me take you straight to my point.

First and foremost, lebanese people are not only known for their famous “tabboule” (national salad dish) but for their nagging. I have never seen nor heard actually people nagging this much. Yes I understand the circumstances in this country do not facilitate everyone’s lives but I am sure that  some of these circumstances are common abroad as well.  Few are those who are happy with their jobs (and you are the lucky ones). However, the 99% left are either bored, frustrated or/fed up. I have heard so many people nag day after day about how much they hate their jobs and how they can not wait to implement their dreams. At first you are compassionate with those friends/acquaintances and you discern an ambition that you want to encourage truly. However when you notice that this appeal is turning into a broken record, you give up and continue listening day after day without encouragement nor advice. Because when someone wants to do something and make a change, he just does it no matter the challenges. I say stop wasting your breath and everyone else’s time. A broken record is thrown away in the end, it becomes obsolete with time and so does that bond you had established with your surrounding for your cause.

Second of all, the middle eastern society’s main flaw is that it pressures people to take a certain path whether or not he/she is convinced of it. A very common example would be that of marriage. Before i start down this road, I just want to make sure that you all understand that I am a person who is in favor of marriage and I do see myself as a wife and a mother and that eventually I am going to reach that fate. However what I do not understand is that how a person who established himself as a very open minded human being and living the life of a foreigner in Lebanon comes and acts up all of a suddenly in the most arabesque manner and mentality. Let me be specific, let us first take the example of a guy here. Mister Georges is happy dating ad going out and sleeping with whomever he wants. He established himself as a no-strings attached kinda guy and when the girl he is dating is carefree and independent, he breaks up with her for those reasons. I mean what?? where is the flaw in here? I thought, as you all did, that Georges was not the committed type and you played along those lines. However it seems that Georges lacks the balls to actually admit that he wants to be in a serious relationship and he wants the girl’s full attention and care. Well as you guys want us to be honest about our wants and needs, I redirect the same claim to you as well. Life might be a sick game for some of you but it is not for the majority of us.                                  To be fair I will take an example from a woman’s perspective as well. I do not know any single/in a relationship girl who does not want to tie the knot. All of us dreamt and imagined our fairytale wedding, though most of us with time downsized that fairytale wedding into a reality. When being single and mingling, you should be honest as to where you see yourself in the future. Hiding your true opinion on marriage so as not to scare off your potential date will only lead to both of you being in a relationship based on false hopes. Knowing women so well, a frustration will be reached with time as to where you really stand in that union. And when a casual conversation turns into an engagement- rings- hinting sessions, it is only fair for you not to be shocked if your partner does not comply. You can not with time try to change his state of mind. Men who are not interested in exchanging vows are not going to change their minds within a few months or a year. Just be honest and do not waste your time, or in this case again your friends’ time (by nagging) when you could have spared both of us this ordeal.

Furthermore what I do not really understand about this country’s mentality is the importance people give to age. Yes age is an important factor in some situations. However i do not see its importance when someone realizes his feelings towards another person or most importantly in changing career path. Whenever people are aware that I came to realized my love for art and painting and am taking classes in London so as to accentuate my knowledge in that direction, they look at me and say; “but why throw away all those studies and a good career in some corporation? at least your future is secured that way”. Or the funniest one is “isn’t it too late for this change?”. This is the most absurd and many of the stupid remarks i have ever heard in my life. It comes to show how blocked lebanese truly are behind those air of open mindedness. I do not recall that life stopped at some point in time. Maybe for those who are hidden behind their desks and routine life , a daring change is like an alien on a visit from outer space. And those are the people who crave for this change in their lives but do not dare to go for it.

Yes I am fixated by London, not because of the city itself (which by the way is the most beautiful and carefree city I have ever been to) but because of the lack of these complications. I met so many interesting and ambitious people in London and i am proud to call them my friends. Whether young or older, i learnt one important thing from them all; age does not matter, you have a goal pursue it. They do not hear you out for the sake of hearing you out only, they actually listen to you and encourage you. They might be in their early 20s or late 40s, they are all equal and there for one another. Most importantly, they  proved to me that it is through unimaginable tenacity and eagerness that ambition is implemented, love is conquered and shared and most importantly satisfaction is reached.

You dare ask me again why I am going back to London AGAIN?