Where did The Courtship Go?

Disclaimer: Directed to the general “manly” Lebanese public. Those who do not feel concerned, do not need to take it personally by trying to defend the below mentioned majority out there. Thank you in advance for your understanding!


Today, I decided to listen to the classical french songs while reading, writing and doing my morning work out. Reminiscing? Maybe. Hearing the romantic lyrics emanating from artists such as Michel Sardou, Jeanne Mass, France Gall, Charles Aznavour (etc..) I realized how rich and fulfilled our parents must have lived their life back in the days. Back in the days where courtship had a meaning and the respect we, these days, are seeking in future relationship, lacking.

Alas, nowadays the full meaning of dating is non existent. Ten years ago, women and men went on dates because they felt a certain emotional/ physical attraction towards one another. They used to give time for a relationship to blossom through two, three outings, meetings each other’s circle of friends and then take the final step of being together as a couple. Men used to respect their love conquest whether privately or/and in front of the public.

Flash forward nowadays, dating is inexistent. Forget being taken out to dinners. Trending is going out for drinks, toppled by a few shots. Conversations are superfluous. The end game? Getting you drunk, in bed and done. Their inspiration for such behavior? The over exaggerated american movies depicting over rated lifestyles, the ‘Cool’ girls out there who have approved and developed the hook up culture in our society as means of going out to trendy clubs free of charge. If they only knew how foreigners, and I emphasize on the word because I am not including Middle Eastern men, really treat their women, they would be shocked because such courtship is no longer available in their 21st century vocabulary.

What is a niche of men abroad is major in our city. By that I mean those who are going out within the norms of the hook up culture. It is a shame really for women in this city. I am not surprised that the majority of us are dedicated into pursuing our ambition passionately rather than investing our time in looking for A MAN.

Lebanese Men, you are over rated and I am not falling for your tricks. Top it, you are as rich as your upbringing (which is none) and not the money siphoned from your parents businesses.

Et sur ce, “elle court, elle court, la maladie d’amour….”





Author: Patyl-Astrid

"Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the common place, the slaves of the ordinary." Cecile Beaton

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