We have all reached a certain point in our lives in which we gave up or pondered on giving up on our goals and dreams. I know I have many times. Life is not easy and throughout the days, months and even years, we face many setbacks that make our path in this world difficult and challenging. It is important to note down that snapping out of this phase, instead of giving in completely, is much more rewarding on our well being and mental state.
The following, in my opinion, is the main aspects in our life that we need to fight for so as to succeed and be at peace with ourselves and our surrounding:
Love is a beautiful feeling whether we are sharing it with someone or projecting it towards an object, a situation. It is a state of mind that fills us with positivity and confidence. A person filled with love is a person that will, unconsciously, surround himself with happiness. Love is free.
We all went through bad relationships and swore to never again make the same mistake or fall for a certain type of person. However we are merely human beings searching for re-assurance and falling back into the same trap we promised never ever to. Instead of crossing away that aspect of our life and becoming bitter and negative, we should hold our head up high and forgive whatever happened and move on. We should never cease to love and give up a chance to a new relationship based on our past experiences. People make mistakes and not all of us were built the same way. Analyzing the situation and coming up with a sustainable closure helps us to move forward. Moreover, we can never truly know what were the reasons behind someone’s behavior and decisions. We can only wish them luck in their quest and luck in finding that right person that will appease them and make them genuinely happy. We know that we are and we are proud of the person we have become; strong, determined and more than ever loving and caring.
I have always said that it is not the number of friends that one has but the quality of friends that is important in life. We all have different kind of friends; the best friend, the acquaintance, the childhood friend, the party/ social friend, the college friend and the most recent and popular one on the list, the social media ‘friend’. When we establish and pursue a friendship, regardless of its genre, we take the first step and acknowledge that we are dedicating ourselves in maintaining this relationship. Needless to say that friendship is not always perfect. We tend to have different opinions and argue and we sometimes shift and drift away as one of the two persons involved evolved in a new path that is not aligned with the other. Regardless of the reason one should always maintain his friends close (and enemies closer!).
For most of us, friends are our second family and pushing them away can only harm us more than we can imagine. We all need at some point a ‘me’ moment and hence hide away and spend time figuring out our next move and goals. We all have that one friend that disappears for days and weeks long and then pops back un- announced and takes on where he left. We are understanding and respect their decisions. Never give up on your friend especially at moments like this. We do not know what they are going through and these are the ones that need us most. On the other hand, if we are going through a turmoil and need the space and time to gather our thoughts, the only thing that can be encouraged is not to stay in this state of mind permanently. When something becomes a habit it is very difficult to snap out of it. I am sure that we have all established understanding friends that will embrace us back with arms wide open. Truth be said, no one has ever been happy and survived on his own in this world.
How often do we hear our surrounding complaining about their bureaucratic job? And how often do we notice that few are those that take the initiative in changing their current situation?
I used to hold a 8 to 5 job in a bank. I was miserable all day long, every day and for the entire 3 years spent in that institution. Then one day I woke up, quit my job and went back to school in order to pursue my passion; arts.
I admit it is not an easy decision and requires some gut and perseverance.
I wish our society was more accepting and lenient.
Let me elaborate.
A lot of my friends face this dilemma. They are unhappy and long for a change. However, their lack of determination and self- confidence sets them back. Furthermore, we should not forget the already established ideologies our society holds towards certain professions. Shift away and you are considered a fool.
It is easy to find excuses; I am too old for a career change, I am not sure I will succeed down this road, what if I don’t make it, my parents will freak out if i quit my secure job, they say you can’t live decently on an artist’s payroll, i don’t have the means of re- starting… and the list goes on.
To all those who want to shift careers and dive into the unknown, I can assure you that fear will be present along the way. However, when one is persistent, ambitious and determined to succeed, no obstacle can prevent him from reaching self- actualization and obtaining self- reward and recognition.
Steve Job puts it eloquently “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
I believe that these three points play an important role in the life of each one of us. Our life revolves around love, friendship and pursuing a passionate career. We all go through some upheaval moments and it is in our hands to either snap out of it or linger. Recently, someone told me that there is a light in the end of the tunnel in any situation you might get yourself in. I agree with you.