It is a known fact that most of our men immigrate to neighboring arab countries so as to establish their career and hence build their future. A concept that is not available to many due to the country’s economic depression, low income and restrained opportunities in many field of studies.
Khalil finished his studies in one of the top universities of the city and after enjoying his long summer vacations partying, he travelled to the GCC to build himself from scratch promising his parents and then girlfriend to come back in a few years time to established himself in his mother country; a better man and successful entrepreneur. Traveling to the unknown with confidence, he left behind proud parents and a doubtful, heart broken flame who took the path of the many in the line of long distance relationships.
Khalil is your mid 30 year old ambitious and clever lebanese expat. His charm and intelligence made him one of the few established successful immigrant these last ten years in his hosting country. Single, he long ago realized that a long distance relationship would only setback his career and let us face it, he is caring enough not to leave his then girlfriend waiting for the promised few years+ in vain. His parents are understanding and could not have found a better situation so as to brag about their only son’s exaggerated accomplishments. Its a win-win situation for all (except the ex girlfriend, we understand your frustration!).
Khalil has it all. The career, the money, the fame and most importantly the flock of immigrant beauties at his side in every single outing. He even had a “serious” relationship with a russian stewardess only to let her go when she did not manage to situate his native village in the map. You see, despite his outgoing personality and transparent open mindedness, Khalil is adamant in not raising his future kids away from the Lebanese culture and heritage. Who in his right mind can imagine restricting future offsprings the joys of a home made tabbouleh and hummus? Can you??
I have heard so many girls talking to me about chatting online with a certain X,Y or Z living in Dubai, Abu Dhabi or Saudi Arabia. Where have they met? Well of course on Facebook you dumb asses! Oh no do not worry at all, they have 15-20 friends in common so in a way he is okay. If these were the characteristics to pass a man for dating material (which of course in the girl’s mind leads within two three chatting session to marriage material) then I must be doing something wrong all those years.
My friends have been chatting with the likes of Khalil. The latter has grown to become a full fledged man with a new set of goals. During their long hour chatting sessions comes out a sensitive, respectable lost soul in search for his better half, his soulmate. Facebook messenger paves the way for an exchange of phone numbers because lets face it Whatsapp interaction is much more intimate and romantic! Night chats turn into an all day long exchange of silly anecdotes and keeping up tabs on each other’s routine. What better way to get to know your soulmate than to know what he/she is doing during the day? You tell me!
Interesting fact is that for months long feelings have been developed both ways and still no real face to face encounter.
Let us further develop Khalil’s new found personality trait. Upon entering his mid thirties, he came to the realization that his life would not be complete without the establishment of a family. All along his adult life, his mother has been pressing him on the matter with her famous ” Let me see my grandkids before i die” but Khalil was not ready. For crying out loud, he broke up with his girlfriend after a few months from leaving the country. His loyal, caring and understanding girlfriend. His rock. (For those still concerned on the subject matter, the Ex married a few years back and has already two charming children of her own. God bless!). Times have changed, and doing what all expats do best, he started getting in touch with girls from his home country and smoothly gaining their confidence, sparked their interest. Managing only to visit his parents twice a year (on major holidays) I cannot tell you how those cyber exchanging lovebirds got all giddy to finally meet one another in a few week’s time. However, the time came and went. The holiday season started and ended without a glimpse of Khalil. First and foremost it is understandable, priority is give to the family encounter. Second, to the few loyal friends and what unleashed is a nonstop party going, late night staying and morning sleeping days. Sadly, the mean of communication was one phone call upon arrival and a message when already back to work. And most importantly, left behind is a damsel in distress and a real heartbreak based on a digital media relationship.
The likes of Khalil are eventually going to get married, whether a local town girl or someone met in an existing whereabouts. The likes of Khalil are interested in chatting you up for hours and gaining your confidence. However the likes of Khalil will not embark on an internet- based relationship. Everything media related is fake and some people post what they are not and what they would want to be. Put yourself in Khalil’s shoes, especially if he works and lives in the KSA. After long hours of work, surrounded by men only, he will embrace and welcome a ‘womenly’ interaction no matter the setting and time. Yes wake up, his online escapade is only wasting the remaining time before heading to bed. Painful? Rude? I don’t think so. It’s human nature. I mean if I had someone to chat up with right before sleeping after a long day of work I would not pass it up!
One last thought; Why would you even consider being in a relationship with someone you only meet a few times a year ( 2>>3-4) ? Personally, I’d chose some “Real” Him over the “Internet- based” Him.