Warning: The following post may not be to the taste of the general female population in the Middle East. And you know what? I wouldn’t careless. Reality speaks for itself.
First of all, let’s get things straight:
I am not men’s advocate nor do I encourage some of their behavior in a relationship (i-e the cheating and disrespect) with no valid reason.
I have more guy friends than girls because let’s be honest, they aren’t backstabbing bitches and their insights on life are very interesting while their stories hilarious and truthful.
With this said, I want to tackle a subject that I believe has given men an unjust reputation caused by the majority of women in this region.
We constantly hear the same nonstop answer from women’s mouth when asked by their elderly concerning their single marital status ” there are no more men left in the country”. How many of you have heard this BS matter of fact statement? All of you (and I know you all use it as well..). So in your opinion, the most eligible men have flown outside the country so as to establish their careers and, God forbid, fell in love with a “foreigner” and set to marry in the up-coming months. Right? Furthermore, the rest of the men in the country are useless and only interested in working for a basic minimum salary (that will eventually not last till the end of the month) and spend their stress off in one of the many night venues of the city. Right?
Well let’s ask the right questions for a change. Have you ever thought why the majority of you have been programmed into this robotic mindset? Have you ever thought that it’s not them but you who has to change so as to switch that “single” status to “in a relationship” one (and if you are lucky and smart to “married”one)? and have you ever thought that while you claim the reason behind your single(ness) is the lack of men in the country, you are disrespecting your male friends as a whole, the same ones you spend time and much fun with on weekends? Yeah I didn’t think so (not much brain left in that newly redone plastic head of yours!).
NEWSFLASH: MEN DO EXIST!
Those are the men that have not been lucky enough or simply did not find it encouraging and useful to leave their families and businesses behind so as to pursue employment abroad. Those are the men that have come to accept their employment /life situation in this economical crisis and living it up to their potential. Most importantly, those are the men that are trying to put up with your “real men are abroad” myth.
Most of the women,if not 3/4, still live within their parents’ ideology; which is marrying off that good looking eligible bachelor who comes from the same sect-same status spectrum. Adding a running family business to his cv is a must (even if not doing well for the last couple of years-again let’s blame the current economic crisis). When you have such a tight mindset, hiding your head under the sand like an ostrich whenever someone not fitting these golden criteria comes along and dismissing him for its lack, you surely can not be surprised to still be single. I mean waiting for Godot has more chances of happening these days than a change within your marital status. Have you ever thought for a split second; who are you as a person so as to be handed all these perks on a silver plate? There might be a few men out there who are willing to offer you all and much more but they are rare; bare in mind, nothing comes for free (I’ll let you ponder on this last note for a while..).
Review your high and all- mighty standards once again. There are so many ambitious men out there who are making a life and pursuing their dreams. Who have set new businesses, which like any, start small, expand and become successful. These ambitious men have come a long way and are doing what makes them happy. They are rewarded on many important levels (than $$$) and can proclaim self gratification (with or without your approval).
Ambition, persistence and hard work are traits that are much more appealing to me than titles and job descriptions that are good in writing and dreadful in implementing. A man who is fulfilled in his work (employment or not) is much more appealing to a household than an exhausted 9-5 workaholic who will only bring nag and worries to the table.
Lower your expectations. Be humble. Be realistic. Wake up. 20th century alert!
A relationship whether on paper or not, is the consensus of two people trying to build a successful ever lasting union based on harmony, mutual agreement and most importantly, happiness.
And on that, I want to end this with a note from Maya Angelou’s famous quotes
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude”.
p.s: and if you are looking for your potential soulmate in the wrong places and within the wrong crowd, please refrain from bashing the rest of this gender.
Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.