“These Hoes aint Loyal…”

Disclaimer: The hook- up culture, by definition, is when ” one accepts and encourages casual sexual encounters as well as casual sexual relationships, one- night stands and other related activities focusing on physical pleasure without necessarily including emotional bonding or long- term commitment.” (Wikipedia).


Women these days are independent, stylish, opinionated and successful entrepreneurs. However, one thing most of them have in common is their relationship status: Single. Singlehood is not a very bad thing especially for those who are focusing on establishing themselves in the 21st century. We all know how life can be hard at times and all those stones thrown at our path are challenging more than ever. However, what we really are witnessing is the adoption of the hook-up culture by our male suitors leading to an increase of single women around us.

Why are men more comfortable in going out and spending their time with different women every time? Have you ever seen your guy friend strolling at the party with the same girl two weekends in a row? And if you have, well you will automatically think that they are screwing around with no strings attached since he would not admit that he is in a monogamous relationship.

How many of you out there have heard from your guy friends the following exclamations:

“I am not ready for a commitment”

“I am allergic to serious relationships”

“Why stick to one girl when there are half a dozen out there ready to mingle with no string attached?”

“Marriage is not my thing”.

“I do not trust women, they are all materialistic gold- diggers”.

I am not going to waste my time in analyzing the truth behind the “Men are Pigs” statement (which in this context I do not agree). However, I only want to take a moment and linger on the last reason mentioned above:

“Women are materialistic gold- diggers”

I am sorry to say this, but it is the truth. Most of the women that I have come to meet in my adulthood (especially in the Middle- East) have one agenda in mind; marry off that fun, rich, out- going party animal, social “Dan Bilzerian” wanna- be. These are the women who are not ambitious enough to establish themselves in society and rely on a male counterpart to give them a meaning in life. I, honestly, despise these women, as they are brainless, physically all botox-ed and trashy attired for any outings. Men are attracted to these “birds” because they have this “je ne sais quoi” that hooks them up. Predators they are. And to our utter shock the eligible bachelor is in a relationship with the black haired bimbo. Now, what any intelligent woman knows is that such a relationship has an expiration date written all over it. The shocking part is that, instead of dumping the girl, our “prince” is dumped for another richer, far more generous (and stupid) peer. What follows is the refutable statement adopted by men towards relationships and the total embrace of the hook- up culture.

I want to say one thing to the men out there who relate to the prince I talked about a moment ago; you are not pigs, oh no. You are plain and simply stupid. Blind stupid. Your social status, banking account and suits do not make you the person you are. It is the woman walking next to you that makes you or breaks you. If you are satisfied in going out with the gold- diggers out there, please do carry on, but do not come back after your break up all high and mighty generalizing the rest of us to your experience and shutting us out of any relationship. Truthfully speaking we are not fed up from hearing your whining and stereotypes, we are just indifferent to it.

Last but not least, if you listen well to the lyrics of Chris Brown’s song “Loyal” (instead of just going crazy on it in the club) you would clearly hear him say:

Why give a bitch your heart
When she rather have a purse?
Why give a bitch your inch
When she rather have nine?
You know how the game goes….You all about her, and she all about hers….
Good women are out there. The might not be all dolled up from the outside to your taste, but I can assure you that they are going to stick to you through thick and thin. They are going to be there for you through the good times as well as the bad times. Most importantly they are going to be the trophy prize you always dreamt of walking by through life for the right reasons.

Say Bye to the Hook-up culture…..



Author: Patyl-Astrid

"Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the common place, the slaves of the ordinary." Cecile Beaton

2 thoughts on ““These Hoes aint Loyal…””

  1. I have to say that this is beautifully written to the last word. I do agree 99% with what you are saying Patyl, but the last part of the article is a bit “up in the air” if I can say that. Yes, good women are out there, but 9 out of 10 women are not good women. If you agree to that percentage, you know that I will have to meet 10 women to find 1. Mentioning the term women, I am sure you are talking about a range of age. I guess in the middle 20’s till the middle of 30’s? I don’t know if you would agree with me but the majority of the women out there, are either teenagers or married women; the mid 20’s – beginning 30’s ladies seem to be out of the radar for being much of “independent women”. It’s quite an interesting topic to discuss. Sadly few comments won’t do it much I guess ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. you are right a few comments wont do justice to such a topic…although women are harboring the “independent” image nowadays and acting upon it, i believe that its not a reason for guys to be “scared off” and go to the type that I described… thats my opinion and as we agree a few comments wont do it much ๐Ÿ™‚

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